Celebrate Hope features a Boundaries Workshop as part of the core components of our California Christian drug rehab and alcoholism recovery center programs.
Our Boundaries Workshop is based on the 1992 book, Boundaries: When to Say YES, When to Say NO, To Take Control of Your Life, written by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. This intensive workshop addresses specific issues that confront many of those that are Chemically Dependant such as:
- Allowing others to take advantage of us or us taking advantage of others.
- A life that is lived out of control.
- Trouble saying no.
- Being or talking at an intimate level at the first meeting.
- Being preoccupied or overwhelmed by a person.
- Not living up to your own personal values.
- Being unaware of when someone invades your boundaries.
- Being accepting of gifts, sex, or touch from someone you don't want.
- Chemical or food abuse.
- Letting others direct your life.
- Falling apart so someone else will take care of you.
- Taking as much as you can get for the sake of getting.
In Psycho-babble terminology Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is personality disorder defined by the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the diagnostic classification system used in the United States, as “a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and a lack of empathy.”
The narcissist is described as turning inward for gratification rather than depending on others and as being excessively preoccupied with issues of personal adequacy, power and prestige. Narcissistic personality disorder is closely linked to self-centeredness.
The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous describes the main problem or the root of the problem, as self-centeredness and selfishness. And based upon these all self consuming thoughts, fear begins to drive one’s behavior into absurd and often times self-defeating patterns of living; it leaves one depressed and in the propensity for drug use or alcohol consumption. The vicious cycle will continue until one receives professional help.
A common characteristic of the narcissistic, (drug addicts and alcoholics) is poor boundaries. That is poor limit setting in relationships. That being the limits or boundaries we set for others. As well as the lack of respecting the boundaries that others have established. The alcoholic/drug addict often feels as, “that doesn’t apply to me” the rules are for others to follow.
It is essential in a healthy, well-balanced life to have established boundaries. Boundaries also help us distinguish God’s will from our own. Celebrate Hope Boundaries Workshop will answer the following questions:
- Can I set boundaries for myself and others and still be a loving person?
- Legitimate boundaries, what are they?
- What do I do when someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
A life without boundaries is a life that is out of control. Either we are being walked all over by others or we are the one's doing the walking on.